The hopeful, helpful, empowering guide for when you don't feel like having sex

Improving your sex drive

I interviewed a porn star about her libido, here’s what I found:

I interviewed a porn star about her libido, here’s what I found:

When I was in the midst of a really low point to do with my sex drive, I often wondered about porn stars and their libido. I watched them happily shagging away, and I wondered whether they were really attracted to the people they have […]

Are you having Brussel Sprout sex?

Are you having Brussel Sprout sex?

Let me clear up the title of this article. Not are you having sex with Brussel sprouts? (Don’t worry if this is you, I’m sure there is a corner of the internet dedicated to solely that!). No. This article is about Brussel sprout sex. Let […]

The dreaded chat: talking to your partner about sex drive issues…

The dreaded chat: talking to your partner about sex drive issues…

So. We’ve already established that you don’t necessarily have a LOW sex drive (for more info, read this post). It’s just different. But having a partner with an opposite level of sex drive, or a predominantly different type of sex drive (see this post) can […]

Carvaka sex toys- a video about low libido…

Carvaka sex toys- a video about low libido…

Today’s post, little pearls, is all about a video that was sent to me by the guys over at Carvaka, a UK based sex toy company. Not many sex toy manufacturers tackle the issue of low libido- many just concentrate on what turns us on, rather than […]

When you want sex, do you feel it or think it first?

When you want sex, do you feel it or think it first?

This week the boyf has been away, and I’ve spent his absence thinking a lot about sex. Or rather, not thinking about sex. Even writing a blog post about sex I’m not thinking about it! I’ve realised that how much you think about sex on […]

What it boils down to- the one word you use to describe your sex drive

What it boils down to- the one word you use to describe your sex drive

So after my post yesterday, I felt really shocked when I realised my reasons for having sex. All around us, we’re told that sex is about pleasure. And here’s little old me- only doing it because its whats expected of me. When was the last time you […]

Why do we have sex? I was shocked by my own reasons….

Why do we have sex? I was shocked by my own reasons….

Have you ever really thought about it? With the boyf away this week, my sex drive has taken a nose dive. I’ve had a lot of time on my hands to think, and what I’ve been pondering recently is about why we want to have […]

Why you should be skeptical about “quick fix” sex drive articles

Why you should be skeptical about “quick fix” sex drive articles

  Have you ever noticed most sex drive articles promise a lot? Most proclaim that if we follow their tips, we’ll be cured! They declare that “in 30 days we can trampoline our way to a better sex drive with their advice”. Or “after you read […]

Here’s how to get in the mood for sex when you have “responsive” sexual desire

Here’s how to get in the mood for sex when you have “responsive” sexual desire

Many women (about 70%) have a naturally more “responsive” way of getting in the mood for sex. I’ve written a whole post about it here, but in a nutshell if that’s you, you’ll most likely WANT to have sex AFTER you become aroused. For men, its […]

This is the perfect way to find out what turns you on: the libido tracker

This is the perfect way to find out what turns you on: the libido tracker

Our sexual accelerator In this post I wrote about our sexual braking system (what turns us off). Being turned ON happens best when there’s an absence of turn OFFs (things like stress, distraction, worry). But, great news… We also have a sexual accelerator! These are all […]