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Here’s how to get in the mood for sex when you have “responsive” sexual desire

Here’s how to get in the mood for sex when you have “responsive” sexual desire

Many women (about 70%) have a naturally more “responsive” way of getting in the mood for sex. I’ve written a whole post about it here, but in a nutshell if that’s you, you’ll most likely WANT to have sex AFTER you become aroused. For men, its […]

This is the perfect way to find out what turns you on: the libido tracker

This is the perfect way to find out what turns you on: the libido tracker

Our sexual accelerator In this post I wrote about our sexual braking system (what turns us off). Being turned ON happens best when there’s an absence of turn OFFs (things like stress, distraction, worry). But, great news… We also have a sexual accelerator! These are all […]

Seven ways to reframe sex so it becomes essential to your wellbeing

Seven ways to reframe sex so it becomes essential to your wellbeing

    Lets be honest. Sometimes sex feels like a chore. Its late… the dogs watching… it feels like a lot of effort… you just want to go to sleep. It’s easy for it to fall to the bottom of your to-do list, or as […]

When to seek help about a low sex drive…

When to seek help about a low sex drive…

  According to science, about 40% of all women have at some point experienced “sexual dysfunction”. Its the elephant in the room that barely anyone is talking about! So, what if you think that you have a problem? Lets talk about what a diagnosis might […]

Here’s why your low sex drive might not be a medical problem…

Here’s why your low sex drive might not be a medical problem…

Its a genuine issue. So many women out there struggle with the label “low sex drive”. But what if we’re totally normal? And our sex drives just function in a different way to the male libido? *mic drop* The topic of low sex drive is […]

An Essential Guide To Understanding How We Get Turned On

An Essential Guide To Understanding How We Get Turned On

What do you think about when I say sexual health? Hands up if its STDs, pregnancy and contraception? Me too. But we ALL have a sexual health, just the same as our physical and mental health. Our sexual health also includes our “sexual wellbeing”. So although its […]

Here’s how I use a period tracker to manage my sex life better

Here’s how I use a period tracker to manage my sex life better

Our libidos go up and down at different times. For some women, this happens to coincide not with the earths gravitational pull or when Simon Cowell appears on the Xfactor, but with different stages of our periods. According to science, week two of our cycle (days […]

Feel like sex is the last thing on your mind? Your period might be to blame.

Feel like sex is the last thing on your mind? Your period might be to blame.

  We all know that being on your period can make some women SUPER randy. But, is there any link between your menstrual cycle and how horny you are? Apparently, for some women, where you are on your period can hugely impact on how much you want […]

What’s putting the brakes on your sex life?

What’s putting the brakes on your sex life?

You know that feeling when you just can’t get turned on? There’s washing to do, a big meeting at work tomorrow, you’ve got a headache…it seems like there’s a million other things you need to do than have sex. Course you do. That’s why you’re […]

Why I blog about my low sex drive and how I’m improving it

Why I blog about my low sex drive and how I’m improving it

Have you ever wondered what other people feel like if they have a low sex drive? Its something that we never talk about, right? Because, in our society, it can seem like EVERYONE is having sex. If you feel that everyone else’s vagina is on fire […]